Jan 15 2025 14 mins 2
Are You Blended Up In Them?
Codependency and people-pleasing require a high level of vigilance and emotional enmeshment with others in order to feel some sense of safety.
This happens because the nervous system and attachment system discovered that regulating others feels safer than living with the chaos created by the toxic relationship's uncertainty. It found that if it can attune and soothe or please the other, the chaos lessens and they even get some breadcrumbs of affirmation, love, belonging, and comfort at times.
This is how we become blended up with other people's emotions and take on responsibility for soothing and managing them through pleasing them, avoiding conflict, being "nice", and accommodating their toxic patterns.
Anxiety, shame, low self-trust, and depression are the result of this, as your needs are not being seen, heard, or valued to any worthwhile degree.
But there is a way out into freedom, peace, and trust.
It starts with one of 3 essential transformations the people-pleaser must make.
The first is Emotional Sovereignty.
Discover this transformation in today's episode.
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People-pleasing Transformed - 6 Weeks To Radical Self-Trust And Peace
This 6-week journey guides you through unblending from your people-pleasing identity, embodying your Confidence Identity, and have the capacity to tolerate and soothe the discomfort that moves you to override your boundaries, ignore your needs, and tolerate things that hurt or drain you.
We start January 26, 2025 at 3pm Mountain Time.
Investment: $197
Click here for more details and to join: https://ppt.freetheself.com
