Durable Dad with Tommy Geary

Why do we overreact? Even when we know better. We know it’s gonna piss someone off or upset the person in front of us, but our mouth takes a mind of it’s own and say the thing anyway. The truth is, our brains have evolved to overestimate danger, loss, or rejection. We’re a lot safer and more loved than our brain lets on.Dr. Bessel van der Kolk breaks the brain down into three

We don't want to make decisions from a rut. And by rut, I mean anxious, bummed out, down – When things feel stagnant or even in a downward spiral.Here are three steps to get out a rut so you can make better decisions:Step 1: What's the worst-case scenario? Let your brain run. Speak it out loud. Write it down. What's your brain worried might happen?Step 2: What's the best-case sce

Are you making things more difficult for yourself?Whether life feels pretty normal, or if you’re going through a rough patch, here’s an equation that’ll make things easier for you:Suffering = Pain x ResistanceIn other words, the more you resist the hard, the more you suffer.Conversely, the more you embrace the “suck,” the easier things will flow for you. Listen to today�

We all have a default mode of operating – Our general disposition.Maybe it’s intense go-go mode, or more of a slow, steady, calm mode. The important thing to remember is that we get to control our mode. It’s not hardwired. You’re in the driver seat and your hand is on the gear shifter.Being self-led means shifting down or up for the appropriate situations. 4th gear isn’t

I was talking to a buddy the other day about his son’s cleanliness (or lack of), and he said something that I think every dad can relate to. He said he just wants his kids to be decent humans. When our kids go off into the world, we wanna know that we’ve raised a decent person. And this desire can lead us to correct our kids at every opportunity. If we let something slide, we�

When we snap, it seems to happen suddenly.Like it's the last straw, and there's no stopping the volcano eruption.But there are ways to stop it. Today's episode will do a quick review of the thinking cycle – the triad of the only aspects you can control in your life: your thoughts, emotions, and actions. This thinking cycle is the key element in getting in front of the blow-ups an

Can watching Netflix or scrolling through social media really help you unwind? Today's episode will look at common strategies men use to unplug at the end of the day, and you'll walk away with better options. Imagine you're an archer, and you have a quiver of arrows on your back. Each of these arrows is a strategy to unplug for a moment. Some of these arrows leave you with a net ne

Are you screwing up enough?We’ve seen all the memes about “failing forward” and “using failure as a stepping stone.” But STILL, subconsciously, we let the fear of failure hold us back. That fear is hardwired into us, and until we put ourselves out there and fail over and over, that fear will lock us down. Because deep down, we believe failure is a problem.But failure is n

While we can’t control other people, we CAN influence them.In fact, we’re influencing others at all times, whether we want to or not – Especially our kids.Our influence happens because of a function in our brain called neuroception.Neuroception is constantly reading the room – assessing the people and surroundings to evaluate: safe? Or not safe?Neuroception takes in another

We have impact (not control) over our employees. And as their leader, THE most IMPACTFUL thing we can do, is clean up our thoughts about them – especially if it’s an employee that can get under our skin. Here’s why: When we’re mildly annoyed by an employee, they feel it. Humans can tell if they’re wanted in the room, or not.And if they’re not wanted, they aren’t able