The Functioning Hot Mess

Oct 31 2022 136 ep. 21 mins 2

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Hey! I’m Tonya Murray. I’ve had enough toxic relationships to write a book about them, so I did. I started this podcast to share my life lessons and hot mess moments to let you know you’re not alone on this thing called life. Every Monday, you’ll get a solo episode or an interview to help you improve your self-confidence, create healthy relationships, or become a better parent. One at a time, my friend. No need to be an overachiever! I’ll be positive and inspire you, but that does not mean I have all my crap together. My feelings get hurt, insecurities kick my butt, and times when my perfect looking life is such BS. I’ve had big hot mess moments with little functioning and others when I’m pretty okay. I’ve learned to laugh at myself and do what I can to become a better person. Isn’t that the point of a personal transformation journey? Hit subscribe and apply what resonates with you and throw away the rest. This isn’t a one-size-fits-all world so why would the podcast be?

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