Couples Therapy In Seven Words

Mar 07 2025 120 ep. 46 mins

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Be Kind, Don‘t Panic, and Have Faith. Psychologist Dr. Bruce Chalmer and educator Judy Alexander talk about relationships, interview fascinating guests, and answer your questions.

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Neurospicy: An Interview with Dr. Kristen Williamson

Mar 07 2025 48 mins

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/kristen-williamson/. What is it like to be “neurospicy”? How does neurodivergence affect relationships? Our guest in this episode is Kristen Williamson, the self-proclaimed “queen of chaos.” Judy and I had a delightful time with Kristen—she exudes a contagious joy, and I hope you’ll catch it too by tuning int

I Think I Want Out–Managing Marital Crises: An Interview with Dr. Becky Whetstone

Feb 28 2025 45 mins

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/becky-whetstone/. When one partner in a relationship tells the other, “I think I want out,” their relationship will never be the same. They might break up, or they might stay together, but either way they’ll have a new relationship. Our guest in this episode, Dr. Becky Whetstone, works with couples dealing with tha

Creating a Life of Legacy, as Individuals and Couples: An Interview with Rabbi Daniel Cohen

Feb 21 2025 35 mins

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/daniel-cohen/. Our guest in this episode is Rabbi Daniel Cohen. Rabbi Cohen has written about how you can “reverse-engineer” your life, so you can live now in ways that will help shape the kind of legacy you want to leave at the end of your life. We talk with Rabbi Cohen about how we can learn to recognize and cultiv

Creating Secure Relationships: An Interview with Julie Menanno

Feb 14 2025 43 mins

How can EFT and attachment theory help couples develop secure, rewarding, lasting relationships? Our guest in this episode is Julie Menanno, a therapist, author, and Instagram creator with over 1.3 million followers. We talk about how she works with couples, and how Bruce’s seven words (“Be kind, don’t panic, and have faith”) map onto the concepts that guide her work. Julie

How Can Improv Improve Your Relationship? An Interview with Andrew Davies

Feb 07 2025 59 mins

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/andrew-davies/. Improv is all about spontaneity, fun, listening, and being willing to play. How can improv help you improve your relationships, romantic or otherwise? Our guest in this episode, Andrew Davies, combines his love and training in theater and Judaism, and beings the joy of improv to children and adults of all

Four Things Your Therapist Wants You to Know

Jan 31 2025 37 mins

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/four-things-your-therapist-wants-you-to-know/. What should you know before you start therapy? Christina Caron wrote an article about that in the New York Times (link below), and Judy and I talk about the four things Caron wrote about, and apply them specifically to couples therapy. As we discuss, therapy is often fluid,

A Hopeless Romantic and the Masculine Ideal: An Interview with Gregory Diehl

Jan 24 2025 40 mins

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/gregory-diehl/. Our guest in this episode, Gregory Diehl, describes himself as a Romantic Idealist, which, he explains is a fundamentally hopeless position since perfection is impossible. And he remains an idealist even as his own love life hasn’t yet come to fruition. We talk about his ideas about the complementarity

If Men Have All the Power How Come Women Make the Rules? An Interview with Jack Kammer

Jan 17 2025 60 mins

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/jack-kammer/. Talking about gender issues can be a minefield. Talking about ways in which not only women, but men too are victims of implicit bias can get you canceled—as evidenced by what happened to our guest’s book when he wrote about that. Our guest, Jack Kammer, has the distinction of being a target of cancel cu

Diversity, Diagnosis, and Nonsense: When Ideas Turn into Ideologies

Jan 10 2025 41 mins

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/diversity-diagnosis-and-nonsense/. Okay, I (Bruce) get to rant in this one. Bring on the arguments! How does the good idea of diversity turn into the ideology that makes universities insist that candidates for faculty positions sign loyalty oaths? How does the good idea of understanding the experience of trans people tur

From Near-Divorce to a Thriving Marriage: An Interview with Sophie Orozco

Jan 03 2025 44 mins

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/sophie-orozco/. What can you do if your husband tells you he no longer loves you, and is ending your marriage? Do you have to just give up? Our guest in this episode, Sophie Orozco, faced that very situation. And her friends, advisors, and therapists told her to just accept it and move on. But Sophie was determined to fi