Hello Hayes

Oct 29 2024 33 ep. 41 mins 17
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Hello Hayes is a weekly advice show hosted by Alexandra Hayes Robinson…but you can call her Hayes. Every episode features three letters. The stories are maddening. Complex. And deeply, utterly human. New episodes on Tuesdays wherever you get your podcasts, videos on YouTube. 

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Hayes Gives Herself Advice (on Grief, Ambition, and Other Stuff)

Oct 29 2024 30 mins  
(Watch on YouTube.) This week on Hello Hayes, I'm answering an advice letter....from myself. After experiencing what I call a "grief explosion" last week, I needed to give myself some advice. Thanks for being here while I talk it out with you. Crying is OK. Grieving is OK. Trying new things is OK. Planning to protect yourself...is OK!!! Please let me know what you thought of this e

Talking About Sex

Oct 22 2024 57 mins  
Content warning: Letter 2 includes a brief reference to SA, no details. It’s not the focus of the letter, but I do bring up the context of being a survivor. If this makes you uncomfortable, see the timestamps below to skip. This week on Hello Hayes, Hayes answers three advice submissions about how to balance two people's physical needs in a romantic relationship, advocating for o

The Cost of Being the Chill Girlfriend

Oct 15 2024 63 mins  
[Watch on YouTube.] In this episode, Hayes answers three letters from women who feel like they (and their feelings, boundaries, and bodies) are too much. We explore the question: is it selfish...or is it self-worth? Letter one features a man who insists on being besties with his exes. Letter two, from someone whose boyfriend told her he's losing attraction towards her because of he

An Honest Advice Session with Justine Snacks

Oct 08 2024 76 mins  
In this episode, Hayes is joined by recipe developer, food creator, and soon to be debut cookbook author Justine Doiron, aka Justine Snacks. For the first time on the show, Justine brings her own Hello Hayes letter to discuss with Hayes, focused on some of the pressures she feels around the success and promotion for her cookbook Justine Cooks. We also talk about dealing with impost

Read Aloud with Hayes: Right Person, Wrong Time

Oct 01 2024 47 mins  
Hello! In today's episode, which is an audio exclusive, I'm reading three columns from the Hello Hayes archive...a read aloud, if you will! These pieces can all be read in their original form on my Substack, hellohayes.substack.com. This is where my writing lives and where you can support Hello Hayes financially, if you're able. Paid subscribers get a priority pass on submissions!

Navigating Uncomfortable Living Situations

Sep 24 2024 42 mins  
In today’s episode we’re talking about something that has one of the biggest impacts on our mental well-being, whether we’re happy or distressed….and that’s our living situations. Thinking back on my own life, some of the most tumultuous times for me were exacerbated by the fact that I was living in places I didn’t feel comfortable in. Whether it was living in my sorori

Hayes and Brob: 10 Lessons From 10 Years

Sep 17 2024 55 mins  
In honor of our anniversary, Brob joins the pod to talk about 10 lessons we've learned over 10 years together. He's a little camera shy but I think he did great :) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"I Feel Like a Liar. Am I Marrying the Wrong Person?"

Sep 10 2024 33 mins  
(Watch this episode on YouTube.) Today’s episode is all about the thrilling yet sometimes messy and confusing world of crushes. We’ve got three letters: "I have a pattern of falling for people who are unavailable. Should I tell my new friend that I have a crush on her, even though she's in a longterm relationship?" "I told my coworker I had feelings for him. I think he has fe

"Should I Go To The Event By Myself?"

Sep 03 2024 33 mins  
What do you do when you're invited to an event with a plus one...but you have no one to bring? Is it better to go alone or to bring a friend? On this week’s episode of the Hello Hayes podcast we’re chatting going to events solo, finding confidence in yourself, and doing the hard thing because you can. I also share the story of how I embarrassed myself in front of my work hero a

"I Don't Like My Best Friend's Boyfriend"

Aug 27 2024 41 mins  
Watch on YouTube. (9am EST) 0:00 - Introduction 1:04 - Overview of the 3 letters 1:46 - Letter 1: Estranged from family 3:50 - Response to letter 1 begins 5:02 - Why certain phrases trigger us 7:12 - What I’ve noticed making an internet advice column 9:37 - Ideas for the future 12:03 - Why it doesn’t feel sustainable to bite your tongue 16:05 - Being honest about your reactio